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April 10, 2014

I have seen the word “modesty” being thrown around frequently again. Then the other day I heard a radio interview where a lady was imploring young women to dress modestly so men will not lust after them and sin. She then continued to reason that if a young woman does not dress modestly and a man lusts after her, she is guilty of his lust. (I am sorry I do not remember who the people were in the conversation, but I was driving and seeing red by this point.)

Who gets to define modesty? This is a sticky point. Each church tradition has a certain idea what modesty is. Who is correct?

This particular radio guest made men sound like an animal that lacks self-control over their being. That offends me. I am pretty sure my sin belongs to me and me alone. My eyes and my thoughts are controlled by me, not someone else. I am responsible for myself. Therefore, no one is responsible for my sin except for me.

So, who gets to define modesty? I believe each person, man and woman alike, need to determine their own modesty. How do they do this: by searching in their soul for what God desires for them. What makes them feel as if they are honoring God in their appearance? In the end, they are accountable for it.

Men, we need to step up and quit pawning off our faults on others. Quit making others feel guilty for our failures. Instead, go before the Throne of God and repent of the sin, accept forgiveness, and start again in the newness of grace and mercy.


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